I’m not one for labels, as a rule. I understand their benefits when used to convey a small aspect of a thing. It’s “blue”, or it’s “round”, or both. Those things don’t imply more than a single aspect, a tiny part of the whole, but other labels, people labels especially, they have a terrible sense of definition about them. That man is “a depressive”, that woman is “disabled”. Labels like that define limits, boundaries within which we are confined, in other people’s perceptions and even our own!
We have words for things, a fundamental requirement of most languages, and we take that so much for granted. We understand the concept of “tree”, and we understand that “branch” and “twig” and “leaf” and “root” are parts of the whole “tree”. That’s pretty simple, but just stop for a second. Who drew the line around “tree”? We know where tree stops and earth begins, and where leaf stops and where air begins. But the tree cannot exist without those connections, any more than a leaf could exist without the twig. Who determined where to draw the boundary? Seriously, just think about it for a moment, that thing we take so much for granted, that “definition”.
There are tribes of people whose languages have no word for “tree”. These are not people who have never seen a tree. These are people who live among trees! The very concept of how we delimit and define “tree” is utterly alien to them. They cannot grasp it! Babies don’t see trees. We teach them that concept. This is fundamental. In order to communicate, we define words, what they include and what they do not. The boundaries. There is nothing wrong with that so long as we never forget that it is just a word, something that is infinitely inadequate to describe a thing, but the very best we can do with language.
The trouble is, though, that battered and drowning in words as we are, immersed in an eternal torrent of communication, our perception becomes subject to the words, and not the other way around as it should be. If we lived in a cave and never spoke to anyone, we would not need to know the word “cave” and so we would not perceive its boundary. But we do.
It limits us, this perception framed in language. Have you ever sat for a while on a beach, or a hillside, and allowed yourself to stop thinking? Have you felt that connection with everything around you? Have you felt, even if you did not understand it, the boundaries vanish for a moment? That simple truth that there aren’t any definitions, any invisible lines drawn around things. You have to stop thinking in words to do it, but it’s an amazing experience if you do. I really strongly recommend it to anyone to try if they have not!
In talking with a very dear friend about this recently, it occurred to me that labels are like chalk outlines around a corpse. The moment we draw them, we constrain what shape something is, and prevent it from growing or even moving. If something, even a perception of something, is restricted in this way, it dies in that instant.
Don’t allow words and labels to define you, or anything around you. They are just tools, and very inadequate ones at that.